Comfort & Vulnerability
In short, your elopement first look is the moment you see your partner in wedding attire on the day of your marriage. But the symbolism and ritual run much deeper. It is a vulnerable space for you to connect with your partner privately and emotionally prior to such a significant day. Your photographer should provide comfort within this vulnerability. First looks are composed of three parts: approach, touch, and the sweet reveal. These moments can represent leaving the past behind, living presently with one another, and fulfilling each other into the future. Like other ternaries, each part is beautiful in its own way. Perhaps your interpretation is somewhat different, which is part of what makes each first look unique.
First, let’s start with the approach. Your elopement is a day-long journey within a much larger quest. It is a dot within a circle, if you will. A first look is like a fleck of lead within that dot. But an important fleck on the canvas of your elopement day. It is a simplified, yet meaningful ceremony in and of itself just like your vow exchange, first dance, or any other unique segment of your day. The first look walk is a smaller journey, symbolizing both of your abilities to navigate the chaos of the world in order to find each other. A first look is full of anticipation and curiosity.
Moreover, first looks are very carefully considered. Your photographers should be able to positively affect your first look. One way we do this is by asking the person being tapped on the shoulder to take a few deep breaths before turning around. Letting this moment hang in the air and linger for a few extra seconds is key. The ideal atmosphere of a first look resembles something calm and nostalgic. The anticipation reaches a crescendo when touch is felt. Anticipation without expectation is such a delightfully wonderful and curious space.
Finally, it’s time for the sweet reveal! This precious moment is inherently candid. It is a great way to start your elopement day together not only from an emotional standpoint, but also from a photographic standpoint. If you allow yourself to be truly vulnerable in front of the camera this early on, the emotion will drive us artistically and propel us creatively.
You are uniting together. It can be nice to have a first look to touch base at the beginning of your journey. Maybe some tears fall early. Perhaps you find yourselves laughing hysterically. Sometimes, it’s great to have space to just react to your love and be alone. Often, we have our first portrait session with you after your elopement first look. If you decide in the moment that you want to go right into your vows, that works too! The day can be constructed however you like. We absolutely love first looks and hope this information gives you a better sense of why they are so special! If you have any questions, feel free to reach out 🙂